Monday, May 19, 2014


by Jemi Fraser

Life is going to throw a lot of curve balls our way. That's part of life. It's how we handle those curve balls that defines us.

When that curve ball is heading our way, we've got some choices on how to handle it:

  • duck
  • close our eyes and swing
  • keep our eye on the ball and swing
  • jump out of the batter's box
  • step into the pitch
  • watch it go right on by
A writer's journey to publication is chock full of curve balls. 
  • finding the right idea
  • writing the first page
  • finishing the draft
  • finding a crit buddy
  • sharing
  • revising
  • editing
  • writing a query
  • and synopsis
  • sending out that query
  • rejection
  • more rejection
  • marketing
  • reviews
  • contracts
  • sales
  • pressure of the next book
  • ...
Resiliency is the key to survival in the industry. So how do we deal with those curve balls? A few suggestions:
  • conversations and commiserations with writing buddies (this online writing community is incredible!!)
  • always having the next idea ready to go - keep an idea bank
  • critique the work of others - a great way to improve yourself & help out someone else!
  • study your favourite stories to see what works in them to pull you in
  • tears (but not for long!)
  • time outs/times off (again, not for long!)
  • chocolate (maybe that's just me)
  • learn something new (this is my personal favourite. Not only is it productive, but it builds your skill set and your confidence)
There's nothing wrong with jumping out of the batter's box - as long as you're ready to learn something new and then jump right back in. 

How do you build your resiliency?

Jemi Fraser is an aspiring author of contemporary romance. She blogs  and tweets while searching for those HEAs.


Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

Step out of the box, re-evaluate, then jump back in!

L. Diane Wolfe said...

The idea bank is a good idea. LOL - yes, I do realize what I just wrote.

Jemi Fraser said...

Alex - agreed!

Diane - love it :)

Mason Canyon said...

I like the idea of stepping back, regrouping and trying again with the knowledge of what you learned from the first outing.

Teresa Powell Coltrin said...

So very right on all of these especially "finding the right idea".

Great article.

Jemi Fraser said...

Mason - it really helps to realize we're learning, not failing! :)

Teresa - thanks! :)

cleemckenzie said...

As I read this, I thought it should have been written in a circle. Start, go, re-evaluate, re-start, end, Start!

You got it all in, Jemi! Great job.

Michelle Wallace said...

Learn something new.
I like that idea... very much!

Carol Kilgore said...

I totally agree about the writing community being incredibly supportive.

Jemi Fraser said...

Lee - so true! It is a cycle! :)

Michelle - me too - it always makes me excited again!

Carol - it is an incredible community!! :)

JeffO said...

Fake an injury and come out of the game.

No, I don't recommend that at all.

Jemi Fraser said...

Jeff - LOL - nope, don't recommend that either! :)

Shelley Sly said...

These are so true! I love our community of writers, and I probably wouldn't have improved my writing skills nearly as much if it weren't for critique partners.

Jemi Fraser said...

Shelley - me too! I'd still be filling up pages and pages of backstory! :)

Medeia Sharif said...

Great suggestions to follow. I didn't know that I would be resilient at the beginning of my journey.

Grannysaurus said...

"Write while drunk.Edit when sober." This advice came from a Subject Master teacher and he applied it to writing reports and submissions. I think it boils down to "write uninhibitedly, but edit judiciously".

Jemi Fraser said...

Medeia - me neither!!

Granny - love that!! And I agree - writing while 'free' is priceless! :)

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Rosalind Adam said...

I have decided that you have to be most resilient when you're making those final edits before the ms disappears off to the printers. It's scary and, yes, chocolate is useful.

Jemi Fraser said...

Rosalind - that's probably the scariest stage of all! Just made some brownie cupcakes if you need one! :)

DMS said...

What a great post! I love the advice. :) It is so important to be resilient and you gave a great list to carry on and not give up. I am in the editing phase and this was very timely. ;) Thanks for sharing!

Jemi Fraser said...

Jess - you're welcome! I definitely need the reminders during the editing phase as well! Good luck :)